Ep 39 – Sex After Baby with guest Kimberly Johnson

Today’s show is super juicy, super uncomfortable to talk about yet super important to talk about!

We are talking about post-partum. More specifically postpartum sex!

Remember yourself in the bedroom (or anywhere else for that matter) before having kids? Remember how wild and free you were? How you always found the time and energy to be intimate, how quickly and easily you got turned on? Remember the smell of your partner and how madly in love you felt after being intimate? I get goosebumps thinking back and recalling how different things were before kids came into the picture.

For me, after three vaginal births (and three extra mouths to feed) things are much different now.

Now we pretty much have to schedule a time in our calendars to make it happen, otherwise, there is just no time! With three young kids, sex is sort of like a chore or a to do. Now by the time kids go to bed we are exhausted and prioritize sleep over sex. After kids, I feel like we, women, sort of feel like we do our partners a HUGE favor for being intimate? Now your desire and passion for sex are not as acute as it used to be. Your hormones have changed, you have changed, your partner have changed and now is the time to go through the process, I call “adulting” which is when you realize that, although things are different now, you can still experience joy, ecstasy, pleasure and yes orgasm like a virgin!

You probably won’t be able to scream like a virgin, so go ahead put a hand on your mouth, do it in the basement, laundry room or simply wait for kids to be at school, but for the love of God do not give up on sex! It is such an important and crucial piece of your mental, emotional and physical health!

Today on the show I am talking with Kimberly Johnson, who is a certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Experiencing practitioner, doula, post-partum recovery specialist and retired yoga teacher. She has taught workshops on the intersection of women’s sexuality and spirituality throughout Brazil, Portugal, and the United States. She is the author of the book “The Fourth Trimester: A post parturm guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions and Restoring Your Vitality.” She specializes in birth injury, birth trauma, and sexual healing and currently works in private practice in Solana Beach, California.

Here’s what we covered on the show:

  • Kimberly’s story and how she healed herself from a pelvic prolapse after birthing her daughter
  • The definition of ‘sexological bodywork’ and why is it helpful for women who have experienced birth trauma
  • The definition of a ‘somatic experiencing’ and how she uses her training to help women post-partum
  • How to prepare for sex postpartum so both sides don’t feel disappointment?
  • The importance of learning to orgasm from a place of connection.
  • Nutrients and supplements to support healing post-partum.

Show Notes


The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality